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The Part That Talks the Loudest

Most people meet the same three protectors first. The critic. The fixer. The performer. They are not you. They are parts of you, on duty, doing a job they learned young. This is a short piece to name yours, and a taste of the work we do in a session.

Meet the first one

The Critic

"You should have known better."

The critic is not cruelty. It is a young protector who decided that if it hurt you first, no one else could. It is trying to keep you safe by keeping you small. You do not need to argue with it. You need to thank it, and ask what it is afraid of if it goes quiet.

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